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Romiさん: Diaries of a Tokyoite
ハンドル名Romi さん
ブログタイトルDiaries of a Tokyoite
サイト紹介文Ramblings of a single mother in Tokyo
更新頻度(1年)情報提供39回 / 93日(平均2.9回/週) - 参加 2017/05/24 11:27

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  • Loving summer
  • So about that date thing. Let’s just pretend it never happened, because it really never happened. It was canceled the day before, and as bummed as I was about the situation, my son had a fever (again darn it!) due to an ear infection so it all worked out in the end. I was supposed to be dressed up for dinner, instead, I was home in my PJs trying for the 100th time to make my son take his meds to [続きを読む]
  • I have enough, I am enough
  • I’ve been writing lots of mushy things about the kids lately. I guess this is what happens when they have birthdays, and it hits
    you that they are growing up way too fast. Why can’t they just stay babies forever? I want them to grow, but I don’t want the
    m to grow if that makes any sense.As for life on my end, all is going quite well.I think I am finally at a place where I am very m
    uch ok with t [続きを読む]
  • Learning to coparent
  • It has been 4+ months since my ex moved out, and we are getting better at navigating this co-parenting thing. Obviously we are bot
    h new to this, and there has been major ups and downs in between. Both of us have felt frustrated or disrespected at one point or
    another, but I think we are improving as we find our rhythm.On a normal week, the kids are with me during the weekdays. On Saturda
    y evening, [続きを読む]
  • Celebrating 6 and 3
  • My children were born two days apart, three years in between. They shared the exact same due date of August 17th which made for an
    interesting pregnancy (being in the same stage of pregnancy at the exact same date three years apart). My daughter’s water brok
    e on her due date and she was born a day later on the hot summer morning of August 18th, 2011. My son’s contractions began on Au
    gust 15th an [続きを読む]
  • Date with my girl
  • I sometimes look at my daughter and see myself in her.Look wise, she is the spitting image of her father and the only outward trai
    t she takes from he is her locks of strait ash-brown hair. But inward, she is a lot like me or so I think. She is very strong will
    ed, stubborn, apprehensive of new people/things, likes routine, curious, a bookworm, a bit neurotic, and sensitive in nature. She
    also hates [続きを読む]
  • Baby sitter to the rescue
  • My mother in law (ex mother in law to be precise) has been sick and in the hospital for a while, and my ex has not been able to he
    lp out with the kids as often as he could these days. If a kid is sick, we’d take turns taking the day off from work, or in his
    case, taking the kids to work. The other day, we had a few hours where we just couldn’t mesh our schedules and look after our so
    n who had a [続きを読む]
  • My rock
  • With the kids being in daycare, pick up times differ from families to families and I end up bumping into the same moms every day.
    While I love the daily communications, I miss the moms I don’t get to see on a daily basis. The other day, I went back for a for
    gotten umbrella, and was lucky to see several moms I haven’t seen in a while. The kids started playing and we ended up talking f
    or a good ha [続きを読む]
  • Son lost and found
  • Parent fail confession. I lost my son the other day. Not lost like in “dead” lost, but like in “lose the keys” lost. My bo
    y is a spunky ball of energy, currently going through his terrible-twos and entering his terrifying-three phase. I feel like I spe
    nd the majority of my day telling him to “calm down”, “be quiet”, “listen to what mommy is saying”. Needless to say, h
    e just doesn’t give [続きを読む]
  • Summer plans
  • Summer is officially here (though the heat has been here longer) and I am super stoked. Even though we don’t have any extravagan
    t trips and such planned, there is so much to be done locally. The kids are capable of having a blast anywhere, and whether it be
    a trip to Hawaii or a local pool, it makes more sense financially to spend our time close to home rather than to spend a ton of mo
    ney on “ex [続きを読む]
  • Cash strapped and freaking out
  • So, my local inhabitant tax went up by five times, and I am officially freaking out. The amount until last year (which I stupidly
    based my family financials on) was from the year 2015, when I was still on maternity leave and shorter working hours; ie. not full
    y back in the work force. The revised amount which reflects my current income is freaking high. To be honest, it’s not so high t
    hat I’m co [続きを読む]
  • Surviving going back to work
  • I went back to work 7 months postpartum for both kids. During the month before birth and the 7 months after birth, I was given a h
    alf-pay of my salary, which I recognize is a very generous situation to be in, when I hear mothers in other countries going back t
    o work weeks after birth. The 8 months away was a blessing but also felt like an eternity career wise. A lot has changed while I w
    as away, o [続きを読む]
  • The philosophical kid
  • My ex and I have always encouraged the notion of “responsibility” and “choices” to our children. Our philosophy is that ch
    ildren should be treated with equal respect and dignity as adults. Their underdevelopment in verbal expression does not grant us f
    ree reign to make decisions for them. Obviously we’re not like “Go! Run out in the streets and get hit by the car! Run around
    screaming in pub [続きを読む]
  • The attack of the hand foot mouth disease
  • Last week, I received a sudden call from the daycare because my son was running a high fever. I get an average of one call a month for both kids, maybe less. I’m thankful my kids are pretty good health wise, but still that phone call means the rest of my workday is a goner, and it usually means the next few days might be shut down as well.Having been a working mom for 5+ years now, I am not hesit [続きを読む]
  • Living with stress
  • So here’s the thing. My daughter has been biting her nails and it is getting really bad. It began with a nail or two ”because the edges were bugging her” she said. Then it was her left hand, and now its all 10 fingers and I suspect some toes as well. They are all very short and jaggered (so short that its painful to see), and she has begun picking the skin around her fingertips, sometimes going [続きを読む]
  • Breaking my children's heart
  • “I want to be a family of four again”My daughter, the sensitive one, had a bout of sadness the other night as I tucked her in
    bed, and was crying that she wanted us to be a family of four again. She was terribly upset and weeping. It came out of nowhere an
    d broke my heart because there’s nothing I can do about it to make her sadness disappear. I knew in the back of my head that thi
    ngs like this [続きを読む]
  • Shared bedroom for the kids
  • My kids have been asking for a shared room with bunk beds for a while now, and I’m saving up for their room makeover later this year. Creating a shared bedroom involves not just buying the beds, but a complete switch of the bedrooms and layout we have going on now. The spare room (a dumping place with no AC at the moment) will become my room, and the master bedroom we co-sleep in now will be the [続きを読む]
  • KonMari-ing my house and life
  • A few years ago, I had an awakening moment when I read “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up” by Marie Kondo. She has been semi-famous in Japan but not nearly a sensation as she has become abroad. Her KonMari method has changed the lives of many, and I am personally one to have been influenced.Back when I was new to my home, it was the height of DIY and interior blogs and I loved adding meaning [続きを読む]
  • Sisterhood
  • Growing up with two brothers, I’ve envied my friends with sisters. They all seemed to have a good relationship and I wish I had that bond with someone too. Funny thing is, my best friends from High school are all in the same boat with me (only brothers, no sisters), but my best friends from college are all the lucky ones with sisters. My friends without sisters all agree that having a sister woul [続きを読む]
  • Working out
  • For some reason, I was the only one in the family not to be blessed with a fit physique. I’ve been scrawny until my teens, then
    I literally blew up like a marshmallow and has been a bit on the chubby side (OK fine, obese) for the past 15+ years or so. My ath
    letic ability is so bad it’s beyond help. That doesn’t mean I don’t yearn to be in fit physical shape. I like the thought of
    working out o [続きを読む]
  • Dating in the digital age
  • I grew up in the midst of rapid advance in digital technology. The beeper was the rage during the end of elementary school, by Jr-
    High we were buying our own PHSs, in High School it was the beginning of cell phones still with monochrome displays, then on to be
    tter cell phones through college, and finally a smart phone which has been the norm for the past 10 years.As progressive as it may
    seem, I w [続きを読む]
  • Giving back
  • For the past 3 and a half years, I’ve had the privilege of being able to support a child in Bangladesh through World Vision Japan. The sponsorship goes not toward a certain child or family directly, but to the region in which the child or family lives. The sponsor has the chance to form a pen-pal relationship with the child, although monetary gifts and actual interaction (meeting face to face) is [続きを読む]
  • Controversial parenting topics
  • Parenting norms are quite different from country to country, region to region. What is considered controversial in one place would
    not cause a single stir in another. There's also changes over time. What's the norm now was not a few years ago. Throug
    hout my parenthood, I’ve been reading both American and Japanese parenting guides and blogs, and it is very interesting to see t
    hat a topic where one [続きを読む]
  • A letter to my children
  • When I was pregnant with both babies, my husband (now ex) and I wrote them letters for them to open and read later on in life. I s
    ometimes read it (when the kids are not watching that is), and 6 years later it’s fun to read what was going on in my head that
    time. My letters are long and mushy whereas my ex wrote simple short messages of love to them, and it sums us up perfectly. Althou
    gh my words [続きを読む]
  • Being neurotic
  • I was an extremely neurotic kid that grew into a functioning but neurotic adult.I don’t adapt well to changes and I have issues with dealing with my emotions.It’s been a constant battle with myself because I could not figure out the whys and whats to the root of my emotions, but something that has gotten significantly better after my marriage (I found my place) and kids (I found my role). I wish [続きを読む]
  • Teaching my kids about work
  • The topic of happiness and work (and my daughter’s dream of becoming a police officer) made me think about how we talk about the topic of work to our kids.One thing my ex and I do a lot, is try to include our kids in discussions of work, politics and society. We watch the news and answer questions, we take them to elections and explain the process of why we vote for a particular person, and most [続きを読む]